Taiwanese Women And Asian Women – The Key Differences

It’s a known fact that Taiwan is part of Asia, and therefore Taiwanese women are technically Asian women. Anyone can determine that by simply looking at a Taiwanese woman’s facial features. However, Taiwanese women aren’t exactly the same as Asian women. There are too many cultural differences that go too deeply.

Taiwan is an island that was cut off from the rest of Asia for hundreds of years. Aside from a one-way flow of culture into Taiwan from China and Korea for several hundred years, the country had little contact with the rest of Asia. This geographical reality has largely shaped who Taiwanese people are today.

Lots of men make the mistake of lumping them into the category of “Asian women.” Here’s why this shouldn’t be done.

Taiwanese Etiquette And Manners
No other country on earth has the etiquette and manners of Taiwan. Taiwanese people are polite and humble almost to a fault. Taiwanese women bring these ingrained social habits with them wherever they go throughout the world. This way of thinking, which always puts the other person first, is completely unique and sets them apart from all other Asian women. To put it simply, Taiwanese women are the most considerate on earth.

Shyness And Modesty
They are also shy almost to the point of neurosis. This is related to etiquette and manners, but it is something else as well. Taiwanese women are so shy that it effects how you approach them, flirt with them and initiate sexual contact with them. Western men have less trouble with other Asian women, who respond largely the same way that western women do when approached by them.

Sophisticated Tastes
Although Taiwan had little contact with any other country for hundreds of years, in the 20th century it was closely connected with the US and Europe. Because of this, Taiwanese women are very worldly. They have sophisticated tastes in food, wine, clothing and shopping that other Asian women don’t have. In that regard, they are more familiar with western culture.

How They Treat Their Men
Finally, there is a major difference in how Taiwanese women treat their men. When her husband or boyfriend comes home after a long day of work, a Taiwanese woman will do anything in her power to make him feel comfortable. Taiwanese women are the most selfless, caring and generous women on earth. Once they’ve fallen for a man and committed to him, they’ll do anything to make him happy.

Physically, Taiwanese women and Asian women may have a lot in common, but the similarities end there. It’s a mistake to lump them into the category of “Asian women,” and once you have some experience with dating one, you’ll understand this difference well. This is why Taiwanese women have a special allure that no other Asian woman has.

How To Build Relationships With Taiwanese Women

Taiwanese women are the most alluring, sophisticated and beautiful women on earth. To a man who has never had a relationship with one, they may seem untouchable. However, any man with the confidence and the correct attitude can have a relationship with a Taiwanese women. It’s just a matter of adjusting your ‘common sense’ on relationships a little bit.

Respect Her Culture
Whether you’re meeting a Taiwanese woman for the first time or celebrating your 25th wedding anniversary with your Taiwanese wife, culture is always going to play a role. Each of you comes from a different culture, and you don’t shed these aspects no matter where you live or whom you go out with. Because of this it’s important to learn about her culture and respect it, and sometimes to break the rules of your own culture to gain a deeper understanding. Never denigrate her culture or try to make her “join” yours. This is difficult, but it’s also one of the things that make seeing Taiwanese women rewarding.

Treat Her To Nice Things
Taiwanese women love nice things. They like good food, nice clothes and expensive trips to wonderful places. No matter where a Taiwanese woman is on the socio-economic scale, she will have the best taste in all things. You should prepare to invest a little more when it comes to treating her. Take her out to nice places, develop gourmet tastes of your own and pay attention to your fashion sense. These are all things that will make meeting Taiwanese women much easier. You can call it old fashioned, but it’s a given to Taiwanese people that the man will treat the woman lavishly.

Be Patient With The Language
Even Taiwanese women who have lived abroad for years may have confidence problems when it comes to English. I’ve met women who spoke it almost perfectly, but were very sensitive whenever the topic of their English was brought up. Be patient with her language abilities. If she doesn’t text you back quickly, she might have trouble thinking of what she’s going to say. If the conversation slows down, give her some time to think of what should come next. Make sure that she understands what you’re saying, and never make fun of her English. Keep her out of situations where she might be embarrassed by her English.

Give Her Everything And More
Here is the biggest challenge for many westerners. You don’t realize how selfish you’ve been raised to be until you meet a Taiwanese woman. They are the most generous, giving women on earth, and if a Taiwanese woman falls for you, she’ll give you everything she has. Because of this, you should do the same. Generosity is a Taiwanese cultural trait, and if you reciprocate it, you’ll be able to build a lasting and fulfilling relationship for the both of you.

Flirting Taiwanese Style

For us in the west, flirting is how things get started when you meet someone that you like. It’s really important to let the person know that you like them, and you expect to get messages back that they like you. Since Taiwan is an entirely different culture, and since Taiwanese women do not change much even when they’ve lived abroad for years, flirting with Taiwanese women can be tough for guys who don’t know how it’s done.

There are a few cultural facts about Taiwan that you’re going to have to learn if you want to successfully flirt with a Taiwanese woman.

Go Indirect And Nonverbal
First of all, Taiwanese people are notorious for being indirect in their communication. Although it may seem this way sometimes, they don’t communicate this way just to frustrate westerners. In Taiwan, being vague and indirect is a virtue. When people speak to each other, they expect the other person to “pick up” on things and understand how they’re feeling intuitively.

A major step in flirting for westerners is to make your bold move and move it to a sexual level. More often than not, when you tell a Taiwanese girl directly that you like her and you’d like to be romantic with her, it is going to terrify her and she is not going to react well. Instead, things should move to the next level more slowly. You should rely on non-verbal clues and signals. Be subtle about it.

Relax And Take It Easy
Like all women, Taiwanese women like guys who are confident, relaxed and fun. However, if you’re aggressive, it’s going to scare her away. In the west, we say that it takes some aggressiveness to get the girl, but this is not the way in Taiwan. Coming on too strong will definitely scare her away.

For men who don’t know Taiwanese culture, this is very tricky. How do you know when it’s time to make a move if she doesn’t let you know? When flirting with a Taiwanese woman, keep it fun, playful and non-threatening for a little bit longer. She’ll let you know when it’s okay to make a move, but you’ll have to pay close attention.

The Third Party System
Sometimes, major advances in a relationship come through a third party, like a friend or mutual acquaintance. This is really strange for westerners, but it’s common practice for Taiwanese people.

The first time I met a woman who I ended up having a long, fulfilling relationship with, our mutual friend invited us to a party at her house and basically announced to us that she was hooking us up. I thought this was strange considering how shy and indirect Taiwanese people are supposed to be. This friend played matchmaker for us until we got to know each other a little better.

If you’re interested in a Taiwanese woman, get to know her friends too. She might use her friends to communicate something difficult to you that she can’t say herself.

Flirting with Taiwanese women is a little bit different, but with some experience and knowledge of Taiwanese culture, it becomes much easier. It’s all about taking it slower, and learning to pick up on the nonverbal signals that she gives to you.

How To Get A Taiwanese Woman To Be Interested You

When you’re getting to know a Taiwanese woman and you’re ready to deepen your relationship, it’s not too hard to win her over for the long-term. When a Taiwanese woman is in love, she’s the most loyal and giving person imaginable.

Be Generous 
Taiwanese women (and Taiwanese people) are the most generous on earth. There is no end in giving to other people. Once a Taiwanese woman loves you, she’ll lay down her life for you. There’s no selfishness at all in a Taiwanese relationship.

In order to take things to the next level, you’ve got to show her that you’re giving too. A Taiwanese woman wants a man who will return all the love she gives and more, without ever asking for anything in return.

Let Her Know She’s Number One 
Taiwanese women have serious jealousy issues. This is a generalization, but ask anyone who has been in a relationship with a Taiwanese woman and they’ll tell you the same thing. It may come from a deep-seated insecurity, or simply the fact that lots of Taiwanese men cheat on a regular basis.

Whatever the reason, make sure she knows that she’s number one and you won’t have any problems. I’ve found Taiwanese people to be extremely committed in relationships, and if you really want a Taiwanese woman to love you, you have to give her this commitment as well.

Make Her Happy Intimately 
Statistics show that the average Taiwanese couple lags far behind the rest of the world in terms of bedtime activity. It might be for this reason that lots of westerners think Taiwanese people are “sexless.” I’ve found quite the opposite to be true. In fact, without all of our hang-ups about sex, I find that Taiwanese people are much more sexually comfortable and open about sexuality.

The reason that lots of men misunderstand the sexuality of Taiwanese women is that we’re not used to taking the lead in the bedroom. Western women are much more sexually aggressive. It’s going to take a Taiwanese woman much longer to reach the level of sexual comfort where she is attacking you in bed. For this reason, many western men think that their Taiwanese girlfriends are not interested in sex because they rarely initiate it.

On the other hand, Taiwanese women aren’t hard to please in bed. Because Taiwanese men usually make love with giving themselves pleasure as the main objective, Taiwanese women aren’t used to being treated really well. This means that if you can do it for her in bed, it will make her insatiable.

Once you cross that line with a Taiwanese woman, she will stay with you forever. Taiwanese women are very pragmatic; they don’t usually jump into something without thinking it over carefully. This applies to relationships too. Give her something to really think about and she’ll know that you’re the one.

Myths About Taiwanese Women – They’re Hard To Approach

Meeting Taiwanese women isn’t hard to do but many guys have the feeling that they are hard to approach. This is because they respond considerably different from western women. Often, Taiwanese women don’t react to your advances in the way that you would expect them to. They are often much quieter, and this unnerves lots of western men.

One of the biggest problems is that western men often come on too strong for Taiwanese women’s tastes. This is especially true in public places. In Taiwan, people just don’t walk up and talk to strangers. They’re always worried about how their actions look to others. Since this isn’t done in Taiwan, she’s not going to like it if you do it.

Instead, you should make your approach much more natural. If there’s something about her that you can compliment naturally, this is a good start. Try finding an “in” with her instead of just walking up and talking to her. If you can find some point of connection between you, and start a natural conversation about that, you’ll do much better.

You should also be a gentleman with a Taiwanese woman. They have strict ideas about manners and etiquette, so you should show her this side of yourself. Don’t do anything overtly flirtatious, especially in public.

Some men use very direct techniques when approaching women. Their approach is to lay the cards on the table and tell the woman you like her up front. I can think of no easier way to have a Taiwanese woman running for the door than to do something like that. You should show her that you like her but in the most subtle way possible. For example, show that you’d like to spend more time with her, or offer to take her out to a dinner. Keep the flirty tone out of the encounter.

It’s also possible that there may be language difficulties. Even Taiwanese women who have lived many years abroad may be terribly sensitive about their language ability. Because of this, you should be as non-threatening as possible and let her take her time when responding to you. Don’t talk fast or rush the conversation. Proceed at her comfort level.

Since Taiwan is an indirect culture when it comes to communicating, watch her non-verbal cues. She may be telling you a lot, but if you’re not paying attention, you won’t pick it up. Taiwanese women will often not say how they feel, but expect you to pick it up from the way they’re standing, looking at you, holding a glass, and so on. Watch carefully for these nonverbal signs.

I don’t think that Taiwanese women are difficult to approach at all. It’s just that they come from an extremely different culture, and these characteristics don’t change no matter where they live. You don’t have to know everything about Taiwanese culture; just keep your approach natural and non-threatening, and watch her for the clues telling you to go ahead.

The Taiwanese And Western Culture Gap – How It Effects Relationships

Taiwanese women are very different from western women. Many are beautiful, sophisticated and elegant in a way that drives lots of western men insane. Because of this, lots of guys are attracted to Taiwanese women, but there are barriers that make it difficult.

Where To Meet Taiwanese Women
Unless you live in a place with a large Taiwanese community, Taiwanese women can be a bit scarce. There are a few ways that guys go about meeting Taiwanese women, such as attending international events or offering to teach English, but these are generally not good for meeting a Taiwanese woman with whom to have a romantic relationship. Women who want help with their English probably want help with their English, and that’s about all. Although you can approach her and maybe get her in the bed before she goes home, that doesn’t pass for much of a relationship.

What really works for meeting Taiwanese women is to have Taiwanese friends or be connected somehow with the Taiwanese community. Introductions from friends are the best way to meet.

Understanding Taiwanese Culture
Many western men scare Taiwanese women off because they don’t understand them. When a Taiwanese woman comes across the ocean, she drags her culture with her, tucked away in one of her suitcases. Before starting to date a Taiwanese girl, you should learn as much as possible about Taiwanese culture.

Whole books have been written on the subject, but here are a few basics. Taiwanese people are shy and easily embarrassed. They stay in groups and like to preserve group harmony, often ranking the group’s interests above their own. They communicate indirectly and through intuition rather than verbally. Taiwanese women, once devoted to a man, are some of the world’s sweetest and most loyal lovers. If you’re still interested, head to your local library and find some books on Taiwan.

What Do Taiwanese Women Like?
Although every woman is different, there are some things that Taiwanese women generally like in a man. They like men who are successful and confident, fun and easy-going, not too aggressive and not afraid to show their ‘cute’ side. Taiwanese women tend to have a high standard of taste in fashion and food. Most Taiwanese women like men who are hard-working but not workaholics.

Aside from all of that, take everything you know about western women and double it for Taiwanese women. They love to be complimented, need to be told that you appreciate them, like to know that they’re number one, and they have a raging sexual side that they hide because of societal expectations, but they’ll unleash it on the right man.

When you finally meet a Taiwanese woman that you like, take it slow and easy. They’re turned off by guys who rush, and they need more time than a western woman. When the time is right, she will show you in subtle ways, so pay attention. Once you’re dating and things are going well, you’ll never find a sweeter or more giving partner.

You Don’t Have To Turn Taiwanese To Build Relationships with Taiwanese Women

There is nothing more laughable than seeing western guys try to act Taiwanese to get Taiwanese women. They think that their interest in anime or manga, or the fact that they like sushi, is going to get the girl. What they don’t know, is that by doing that they’re much more likely to look foolish, and that they’re breaking rule number one for meeting women – be yourself.

If you’re into Taiwanese pop culture, that’s fine. But if you are too into Taiwanese things, she’s probably going to think you’re not genuine. She’ll think you’re either a strange guy, a guy with a “thing” for Taiwanese women, or a total nerd. In Taiwanese, the word, “otaku.” describes a person that is so into comics, video games and anime that they sacrifice their total personality. In the west, we might call him a computer nerd or some other type of ‘freak’ or ‘nut’.

If you’re interest in Taiwan makes you look like an otaku, any Taiwanese woman that you meet will run the other way. This is true also if you try to “act Taiwanese” In Taiwan, lots of western guys work really hard to fit into a country that will never really accept them; while Taiwanese people are often impressed that you can speak the language or that you know your way around the culture a little, it really doesn’t do any good to try and go totally native. From a professional point of view, most good business opportunities for westerners in Taiwan involve using your unique skills and experience as a foreigner.

On the other hand, having a normal, healthy interest in her culture will help you. While Taiwanese women generally avoid nerdy western men who are too obsessed with Taiwan, they like guys who are open-minded and interested in them (which includes their culture).

For a Taiwanese woman who lives overseas, there is a good chance that she’s there for a reason. She probably likes the culture, the way westerners communicate, the difference in the way things are done, and so on. A western guy who is working hard to show her his Taiwanese side is going to be pretty uninteresting.

Here’s an example: Imagine that you are American, and you went to Taiwan on business. You go out and meet an interesting girl. As you start talking, she starts suddenly making every topic about America and seems to have some compulsion about turning every conversation that way. Then, for your second time you meet she wants to go to a burger place that’s a corny America-themed restaurant, and she brings along an American flag. Can you see how annoying this would be? If you’re too much of a Taiwan-freak, it’s going to seem like this to her, or maybe worse.

Understanding Culture – Shame And How It Affects Your Relationship

It’s always amazing to me how little guys who like Taiwanese women know about their culture. Although moving abroad is surely a life-changing experience, Taiwanese women don’t fundamentally change when to go to live overseas. They are still motivated by the same things. They still have the same fears. Basically, they will still act the same way in a given situation.

There have been books written on the subject of Taiwanese culture, but I want to focus on one aspect of the culture that has a major effect on relationships with Taiwanese women – shame.

In Taiwanese culture, shame plays a huge part in everything. It’s about trying not to lose face. Because of this, Taiwanese people care deeply about what others think of them. This includes not just friends, coworkers and family members, but even total strangers. It’s hard for a westerner to understand just how deeply it matters to Taiwanese people what others think of them.

This means a few important things if you’re dating a Taiwanese woman. First of all, very few Taiwanese women are comfortable with public displays of affection, no matter how long they’ve lived overseas. This is just not done in Taiwan, and it’s something that doesn’t change easily.

While things like holding hands or putting your arm around her will probably be okay for her, anything more intimate than that is going to really bother her. Even something like a goodbye kiss is usually out of the question.

This aspect of Taiwanese culture might also affect your overall relationship.

Jealousy And Taiwanese Women

Jealousy is a really delicate issue with Taiwanese women. It has always seemed to that they tend to get more jealous than western women. It might be because, in Taiwan, they don’t have so many friendships between the sexes. Taiwanese people tend to stick to their own gender. Another thing is that Taiwanese women fall hard when they fall in love; their man becomes everything, so maybe when they sense a threat to this, they react strongly.

Just like a woman of any nationality, you have to make sure your Taiwanese partner is happy and knows that she’s number one. If you keep her consistently content this way, it’s much less likely that she’ll get jealous in the first place. Usually when things are a little rocky or you’re too busy to see each other, this is when jealousy rears its ugly head.

You always have to be a careful with your female friends. Make sure your special friend always comes first. I remember a huge misunderstanding that I had many years ago when a female friend of mine was having trouble with her boyfriend. We met to have emergency drinks and my Taiwanese girl didn’t understand this. She assumed we’d be seeing each other that night, although no specific plans were made. This caused a little bit of trouble, but it was something we worked out. The point is to make sure your Taiwanese girl understands your friendships with female friends.

Taiwanese women are more prone to jealousy because they have self-esteem issues and problems with confidence. This is a cultural trait of all Taiwanese people; they generally lack confidence in themselves individually. When you’re dating a Taiwanese woman, this can turn into jealousy very easily. When this happens, make sure that she knows she’s number one. If you give her lots of praise and positive feelings, this will really help prevent this from happening.

Never stop reminding her how you feel about her. Tell her often and send her flowers. Even more importantly, maintain physical intimacy. There’s nothing like a sudden lack of physical intimacy to set alarm bells going off in a Taiwanese woman’s head. If you get busy with work or things get in the way, make sure that there’s at least some physical contact to reassure her that something isn’t wrong. Taiwanese women are very intuitive and they rely on this “sixth sense” a lot more than western women do.

Finally, watch where your eyes go. If your eyes do wander, make sure she gets MORE eye time than the woman who just walked by your table. In my experience, Taiwanese women really notice this. Taiwanese people tend to be really receptive to body language and facial expressions, probably because their culture is less about direct communication. So, try to keep your eyes on her when you’re out together.

Once a Taiwanese woman is convinced there’s something wrong, it’s very hard to change her mind. Because of this, make sure you keep touching her and letting her know that she’s the one. If she’s content and happy, jealousy won’t be a problem.

How To Successfully Use Texting With Taiwanese Women

For guys that aren’t just out of college, keeping up with technology can be pretty daunting. It’s a known fact that the Taiwanese are way ahead of us there. In Taiwan, hardly anybody ever uses their cell phones for talking anymore. They have email, internet access, games, books and just about everything else on their phones. For this reason, it’s important for guys to get with the program and learn how to do this, especially since our cell phones are starting to get more sophisticated too.

When you meet a Taiwanese woman, it’s a good idea to swap not only phone numbers but cell phone email addresses as well. Taiwanese women are more used to communicating this way since it’s what they do at home. You can text her to arrange the next date or nail down details.

Once you’ve gotten her email address, maintain consistent contact with her. This doesn’t mean that you should email her everyday, but what lots of guys do is send a flurry of emails the next day or so, following up with a meeting, and then they stop. Instead, what you should do is keep in touch with her. Send her a message every so often to see how she’s doing.

This is another thing that’s tough for those of us who came before the email revolution – what do you say in a text message? It seems a bit impersonal to lots of older men. Keep in mind that you should always make the conversations about her. Ask how she’s doing, what she’s up to and mention something about her occasionally. This shows that you are paying attention.

Another great thing to text about is some inside joke that you share. If there was something funny that happened when you met, bring this up. Keep this in your dialogs between you. This is called psychological isolation; it sets the two of you apart from the rest of the world and creates a bond between you. This is important in building relationships anyone, but it’s a great topic for your texts.

You should also learn to use emoticons. These are those weird little smiley faces and graphics that you can send. Taiwanese women love these and they use them constantly. They’re not only popular with young women but with women of all ages and classes. I remember being surprised when an elegant and mature Taiwanese woman I met and began seeing sent me a message full of sparkly stars, funny faces and exaggerated punctuation marks! Emoticons are universal for all Taiwanese women.

When carrying on conversations through email, be patient for her responses. It may take a Taiwanese woman longer to get back to you because she may have issues with English. Even if her spoken English is good, writing may be another matter. Part of this is that she may be shy or lack confidence in her English writing skills, so don’t expect quick responses.

Finally, never discuss anything serious through texting. All of your messages should be light and fun. It’s bad form to fight, break up or have serious conversations through email. Taiwanese men do this all of the time and Taiwanese women hate it.

This technology isn’t going to go away, so learn how to use it. Taiwanese women are the most technologically savvy in the world, so it’s essential.